WHAT A WOMAN CAN DO, A MAN CAN DO BETTER

I saw a write up online about how a man was in a bus and there was an argument about what a man can do can, a woman can do better. He didn’t want to listen so he plugged his ear piece and didn’t get into the argument with them. He got home and asked his wife and she jumped and answered in affirmative like are just knowing. He didn’t argue with her but rather carried her like he carried her at their marriage registry to the sitting room and told her to carry him back but she couldn’t so he gave a standing order for her not to join other women in such conversations.

First of all I will like to say when this statement was first made I am sure it was not to measure physical strength and when I hear men say things like “can you impregnate a woman” or a woman say back that “can you carry a child in your womb” I go dumbstruck. Those are cheesy lines.

This is not a gender argument post neither is it a philosophical talk. It’s simply reality. Men are awesome, women are awesome and our men cannot deny the fact that women overtime have proved the statement “what a man can do, a woman can do better” right. We don’t need to get into loud argument about it or make noise.

Men naturally were created to be the head, they have ego and they like to dominate and I don’t know why women like to struggle that stand with them. I have never seen a man struggle a woman’s stand with her but we all know that the stand of a woman on earth cannot be overemphasized. If you have a woman in your life you can relate well with what I just said(lol). Men will never give up their stand as the head with mere talks and I doubt anybody will ever do that. If as a woman you have something to show that makes a difference (different from what a man would do), then do do it and prove the statement right.

We have women who have made history. Has anyone ever thought about why Queen Elizabeth ( popular known as the virgin Queen) made history? (if u don’t know the reason, read up). We have women like Helen Keller, Emily Murphy, Dorothy Hodgkin, Dora Akunyili, Tegla Loroupe, Benazir Bhutto, Shirin Ebadi, Billie Jean King, Betty Williams e.t.c. The list can go on. Those are women who have proven that “what a man can do, a woman can do better”. They made a difference.

So I was wondering why we have never had a saying like “what a woman can do, a man can do better (lol)”. I would have preferred making history to making loud arguments or loud noises on this topic. So I concluded when next I hear such argument about “what a man can do, a woman can do better” I will just tell them “what a woman can do, a man can do better”. This is just to confuse them and stop this argument(lolz). Talk is cheap, so let’s stop the noise and make history.

Agree or disagree, comments are welcome (kisses and hugs)

MY TWO CENT TO SINGLE LADIES

Marriage changes a lot of things for people, most especially the ladies. While some people may think that I have no right to say this because I have not experienced married life, but you all will agree with me on this.

This is the order in which as ladies you should plan your life.  Education, career, love and marriage. I should say this that there are some exceptional cases but they are rare.

For the ladies who want an education, it’s better to get it before marriage but if you don’t, you may never find the time after marriage to go back to that path.

For the ladies who have an education and want a career, make sure you are on your career path before marriage because after marriage and the children start coming in, you may never find the time to go back and build a career.

For the ladies who want to find love, get an education and get a career. This will help you define the Kind of man you want to end up with and believe me every guy wants a posh girl but no guy wants to end up with a lady that will become a liability to them.

Finally, it’s the dream of every lady to be married. Make sure you get all three: Education, career and love before settling down.

It’s very important you define a path for yourself and be on that path so you find purpose and fulfillment in life if not you end up living the path of your spouse which may never be fulfilling.

Agree or disagree, opinions are welcomed (kisses and hug).

TOKE MAKINWA'S "ON BECOMING" BOOK REVIEW.

From the very first time toke launched her book and I read a few excerpts, I knew in my mind that I wanted to do a review of her book. There has been mixed reactions from people on her book and I believe she expected it.

On becoming is a can’t-drop-till-I-am-done-book and I must applaud toke for her strength. Life threw lemons at her and she made lemonades out of it. She did a very good job telling her story same time driving home her message.

Majorly my concentration will be on why she stayed with her ex with all the obvious signs. I once asked a group of friends if love is strength or weakness and they all said strength. Reading, you can tell toke grew up from a very strong Christian background with parents who love their children and then having to lose all that at a very young age, she was forced to grow up. She was lucky she had her big mummy to take over even though she didn’t make it easy for them but I guess she needed something more.                


Toke took alot from her ex and a friend of mine told me she did all that for the fame and money but I think not. Ranging from cheating (which is a major deal breaker for most people), left her at the court twice, sex tape with another woman and you say all that for money. From all she said she was doing fine herself. Also even if all toke’s friends are bad, I am sure there is that one friend who will stick it out with her and gave her reasons to leave her ex but she still stayed till she said I do.


So why did she stay?
I in particular have reservations for relationships that last longer than necessary. You are not sealing the deal but you are still together. For me it’s like you are not sure of that person, just marking time. Toke has known her ex for more than ten years. From her teenage years till the marriage eventually crashed. Apart from the obvious fact that she loved him deeply there is something else about women who stay long in relationships. I read this somewhere and then I took note of all my friends who are finding it difficult to walk out of their relationship and I saw it’s true. When women get into relationships they show you their best part and their purpose and then the man loves them for that. It gets to a point they start to feel threatened about the relationship breaking so all that comes to mind is wanting to become all that he wants so he does not look outside. Loosing who you really are as a person. She said she bleached her skin because she felt the reason he was cheating was because he liked light skinned girls. She also agreed to do a sex tape with him even if she had her own fears about doing a sex tape but she did all for him. At that point most times for the woman it all about the man.

When some women love, I can’t help but say they help their man fan his ego by staying when they should leave. Most men end up taking it for granted. Toke did help fan his ego. I watched his video after the break up and you can tell from his body language that he regrets his actions. A baby is involved now. He has to be a daddy to another lady’s son. I guess for her then was the time to leave. What more is left to fight for. Someone once told me that if you have no control over your emotions then you are doomed. You don’t let your heart rule over your brain. That was her greatest weakness and then waiting to be accepted by her ex, forgetting herself in the process but in it all she became a pretty fine woman (lol allow my English).

Agree or disagree, your thoughts are welcomed