JUNGLE JUSTICE.

I couldn't bring myself to completely watch a video some weeks back of two people who stole a bike and the sort of judgement the society we live in felt was most appropriate punishment for the sin that was committed.

Two guys stole a bike and they were both burnt alive with the bike. They were first beaten with all kinds of hard object you can ever think of before finally fuel was poured on them like they were some set of rags that needed to be burnt and then the fire. The result was that one died on the spot and the other probably will never live a normal life ever again even if he was taken to the best hospital in the world. This happened in one of the Eastern states in Nigeria.

I have a certain kind of believe and could not put myself together to watch that video. After watching to the extent that I thought I could take, I dropped the phone and left the place. I asked for the outcome of the whole scenario because the more I watched it, the more I felt the need to do a write up.

While that is not the first of such videos that I have seen but I thought how long such judgement will be seen as appropriate. Infact just some few days after the whole bike video case, someone sent me another video of a lady who stole a phone. It's not a video to be kept so I deleted it and didn't think it was a video to be distributed, shared or sent to people. I consider such act of violence "barbaric".

When I did the write up on euthanasia, (if you have not seen that write up, it's a must see) I did research on suicide, mercy killing, life imprisonment and death by hanging and I discovered how much the world has evolved. I consider all (suicide, mercy killing, life imprisonment and death by hanging) to be related in one from or the other.

I can never say this enough or get tired of saying that "a life that cannot be created should not be taken". Life is precious and should be cherished. I am not justifying stealing but that is not to say jungle justice is the perfect punishment for any kind of sin. Some times after the act, you discover the people who got the punishment suffered that as a result of misconception  just like the case of the four uniport student.we have the law and I don't know when we learn not to take laws into our hands.

As far as I researched, death by hanging is in extinction already in most countries of the world and the worst punishment anyone can get for a very bad crime is life imprisonment. For me, I think that is a good enough judgement. People who even get the life imprisonment punishment never ever get the chance to live a normal life, so is that not good enough?. Some countries have begin to realise the fact that "a life that cannot be created should not be taken". The best science has been able to do for us is to create a robot. They have not been able to create a life.

What is the worst sin a person can commit?....it is to take a soul and then do we think that taking that life that took a soul is the best punishment. Humans can never give the best punishment that is commensurate for a soul that was taken by anyone......why, because that life was not created by them in the first place. So we do not soil our hands or worsen that which is already bad enough.

I see jungle justice same way I see death by hanging and don't think it is something of pride anyone should associate themselves with. Sometimes I wonder if the people who take the law into their hands never think of the "maybes" and the "what ifs" in between all that transpired. JUNGLE JUSTICE is a NO NO and I know some people are on this with me.

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THE DAY BEFORE SHE SAID I DO.

Last weekend, I attended the wedding of a very very very very very very (the very can continue..... Lol)  close friend. A friend close to my heart.

I woke up a day to the wedding feeling anxious about my clothe with my tailor that I have to wear for the occasion. Days before that morning I was not bothered about the clothe and I just suddenly felt I shouldn't have chosen that style, it may be too complex, she may not give me a perfect job etc (lolz.......i don't know if anybody has felt this way before or why I felt that way but I just feel it's partly because I am not really a traditional atire kind of person.).

Putting that thought aside, I set out for the day. All I had for that day was to put finishing touches to all the plans that have been set down already. My first point of call was the market. I needed to get her a gift (Courtesy me and a few friends) and then proceeded to my tailors place. After seeing my clothe and of course testing it to make sure it fits, that was all I needed to make my day. It was perfect (lol..... I wondered why I bothered in the first place and started hoboured the idea of getting more natives). Next was to visit the bride to be. So i called and she told me she was making her hair and can wait for her in the house.

Getting to her house, the first welcome was the aroma of party food (we all know how it is, I made sure to take a deep breath. Lol..... Usually I love that aroma). That aroma for me signifies celebration. Right there I remembered an argument I had with a friend over which rice was sweeter "wedding or burial". While I stuck my foot down and said wedding rice was sweeter, she said burial was sweeter. Well till now I still hold on to my believe "wedding rice"........ Lol.

Greeting the people I met outside I went inside the house to wait for her. I am no longer a guest in her house but I was still offered something to drink. Her arrival was announced by the children in the compound when they kept shouting aunty precious, aunty precious (lol). So I chorused with them when I saw her open the door aunty precious and she said onyeje (she is the only one I know who calls me by my surname and has a way of reminding me of my roots.......lol).

We spoke briefly and then she was getting ready to leave for the hotel where she was to lodge. Stepping out again the children kept saying "where are you going to", "we will miss you" etc. It sounded like she was going to a very far place, a different place and she was leaving them behind (smiles.....). And then we met another set of women before we got to the gate. She greeted them and the oldest amongst them (I presume so though) started to pray for her. She knelt down and everybody was saying amen. Watching that scene from a little distance and saying amen too was what touched me to put this write up together. I realise she can never have too much of this prayers and really she was going on a different journey. Alone without her parents and she needed as much of this prayers as possible.

While walking to the bus stop she then asked me if this is how it is (lol.... I wonder why she was asking me a single. I just laughed and said yes whether that is the right response or not). When we got to her lodge there was preparation already for her bridal shower but I had to be unavoidably absent. So she showered and walked me to the bus stop.

On the d-day while doing my make up I realised I love Yoruba weddings. Haven attended both Igbo and Yoruba weddings, I feel Yoruba weddings are more interesting. This is not to say any one is better than the other, it's just my preference. When I got to the venue, there was druming and dancing already. The engagement had started and the bride was there already so I gave her one shot before going into the hall.

The hall was well decorated and had a welcoming ambience. A few friends where there already so we greeted and chatted. Everything was in place. People everywhere, music, food, smiles and laugh on people faces, gifts, cake( I love cakes, have I said that before....lol), drinks, live band, flowers, etc. And the photographer was just awesome. He was just giving us different snapping positions eg lying down, bending, kneeling......lol. In all it was a beautiful ceremony.

One of my then coursemate said I know precious to be a very quiet person. She will just be smiling but look at how she is dancing today. I laughed and thought since it is a once in a life time event, she has to dance it all out.

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NAIVENESS 101.

If I ever get a chance to do better something that I did in the past, then I want to be better at what I have come to realise people term naive.

Talking about this from the angle of relationship, I have come to realise 9 out of every 10 guy walking on the street has screwed thoughts on how to act in a relationship and 9 out of every 10 lady walking on the street has the same screwed thoughts

For someone like me who came into the dating ring quite late because it seem there is a certain age when you should have gotten into a relationship.....eyes rolling,  I just set my mind on doing every other thing while I got myself acquainted with relationship books, other people's relationship story and all the best possible solutions to relationship issues. I got so good at this that I would even counsel a few friends when they have issues in their relationship........but believe me when I say theory is different from practical.

My first relationship was not the perfect relationship (I don't know if there is any such thing as perfect relationship) but I was not someone without a clear head on the kind of relationship I wanted or how I wanted my relationship. Putting all the theories into practical was not easy but I gave it my best try.

First relationships are believed to be the eye opener. Brings you out of a state of being "naive", untouched, pure heart e.t.c. And then we find a lot of people change their initial pure state to match the so called worldly experience they are faced with or will be faced with.

While I know that it is not an easy task to win "worldly experience" with "niaiveness" but you don't also get the best result with doing worldly experience for worldly experience.

When I talk naiveness what do I mean?,I mean Sincerity, commitment, intelligent, honesty, loyalty, truthfulness, innocence, open minded with simple wishes, humility, smartness etc Without the helplessness and timidity that is in the original definition of naive.

I am in shock as to what worldly experience mean and the rate at wish people are running towards that angle. We have it as lies, manipulation, dishonesty, unfaithfulness etc and 9 out of every 10 male or female has their minds functioning like this, 9 out of every 10 wants to do worldly for worldly.

We all make our choices in life. While I will not tell you how to live your life, I just wish we could have less people having screwed thoughts that is why I put this write up together. I remember when I was in junior high school, I was taught in integrated science that like poles repel and opposite poles attract.  You don't win lies with more lies, it just get messy,. You win lies with sincerity. So also you don't win dishonesty with dishonesty, you only win dishonesty with honesty.

So after my first relationship ended, I made up my mind to maintain that initial state of mind that I had before I got into any relationship. I even made up my mind to be better committed, honest, caring, loyal, loving etc. It's not gonna be easy and it's not been easy but nobody told me it was ever going to be easy.

My wish is for anybody who reads this to make the choice that I made. So I beg that we help my wish come true (smiles). That way we could have a less toxic environment filled with people with screwed thoughts...... lol.

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