TEENAGE PREGNANCY (DEBATEABLE POST).

Sex is a choice between two consenting adults and when I see teenage girls moving around with protruding stomachs, I wonder; how did this happen?, how did the baby get there?……WiFi, Bluetooth, flashshare or rather xender?. Somebody please answer (lol).  Now Sarcasm aside, this is a much more bigger issue than I thought.

For a whole week I kept seeing different teenage girls with pregnancy. My thought is how are they feeling?. And then I give kudos to their parents for allowing them keep their babies since I am not a fan of abortion. Sometimes trying to correct one mistake (abortion) could be costlier than accepting it (keeping your baby).

I read an article sometimes back which said that research shows that women who give birth after the age of 25 have greater chances of living long when compared to women who give birth before the age of 25. I don’t want to concern myself with the health risk, the shame the teenagers have to live with, the way society reacts to teenage pregnancy, how it affects the lives of the teenagers and finally how their parents have to cope with it because the result is not always a friendly one.

My concern is where did it go wrong, who did not do their home works well; parents, teachers, religion or lack of it, over protectiveness or lack of it, too much of civilization or lack of it, unlimited access to the internet or lack of it, lack of sex education or too much of it (for our teenagers who like to experiment) or should the male involved know better?

I stand to be corrected, I believe the male or rather men involved are of a higher age and should know better. Most times they are adults. So is sex with a teenager rape since they are not adults (I don’t believe they have the choice of consenting or not) or sex.

Comments are very much welcomed
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HOW I SPENT MY CHRISTMAS HOLIDAY

This topic is a funny one right (lol). It reminds me of my primary school essay topics. I remember after every Christmas Holiday our first English assignment is always how I spent my Christmas Holiday (lol).

For this year I broke my first law of Christmas which is to not go anywhere and just stay home with my family and enjoy the day. But today I went out (yes I did lol) and that is because a new life is involved (Yay…. So happy). A new baby which Means double the celebration.

Usually I spend more than half of my Christmas day in the kitchen after which I freshen up and then hang my feet on the table sipping drink (lol), watching TV and having my siblings run around (for people who have younger siblings, u know how it can be lol) while I have to drag for the TV remote with my brother if I want to change the channel (we all always have that one big bully right…….lol).

This year was a really different year. It was a beautiful morning and I woke up to a confession (let me spare u guys the details… Winks lolz). After which I decided I wanted set off fireworks (I never use to do that but this year I did and it was awesome…….lol) and then the cooking, cooking, cooking. After cooking I went out (smiles). I went first to see the new born, the major reason I broke my first law of Christmas. Getting there, there was talks of who the baby looks like and the joy of motherhood and then all the talks of your time and all that (let me spare u guys the story but they were pretty interesting to listen to) after which I left and then I stopped by at a friend turned sister’s house. I just met her but we clicked. We have gotten quite close too.

I got an awesome welcome. Her dad even came out to say hello to me. After chatting for a while and of course taking the menu menu I was offered (I even had to turn down some….i don’t want to add any pound after Christmas lol) she walked me a little distance on my way home and then that was when the talking started. We talked a few minutes about every other thing, then She told me things that touched my heart . The first thing she said was “do you know I am always happy when I am around you”. I didn’t know and she told me she even told her dad this and that about me (let me spare u guys the details….lol but they really made my head swell) and her dad said I am a friend to be kept (Doyin really I am honoured) and that was why he came out to say hello to me specifically. She made me feel blessed to be who i am( I guess this is really what Christmas is about, giving positive energy to People and Doyin I am happy we crossed path). To think I left her house early because I wanted to get home on-time to watch jenifa’s diary(lol…. i never miss that show) but I ended up getting home late (awww… but it was worth it). Today I broke a few laws and it was okay(lolz). In all, my Christmas was a simple one but it was full and I enjoyed it.

Hope u all had a wonderful Christmas and let’s remember to give positive energy to others (hugs&kisses).

I REALLY HATE MY EX

Why is kidnapping a crime while heartbreak is not (lol). That was the question asked by an angry woman whose heart had just been broken. She could not let go so she kidnapped her ex and her two other friends who had similar situation did the same thing. All three men kidnapped (lol). This was the plot of a movie I saw a few days ago which had the same title.

It’s one of those times when you watch a movie not just for fun alone. I watched how these women walked their way through heart break and found their happiness. I summed it up in three stages. So how did these women become ex free.

The Questioning: This is always the first thing to ever happen after a break up. You get filled up with question like why, what, how, where, when. It’s in a woman’s DNA to ask and it’s in the men DNA not to answer (lol). I have not been able to piece why the men always run away from those questions (lol). So I concluded it’s because they are chicken hearted (lol). Either ways the questions are asked and most times it’s left unanswered (sigh). But believe me you have your answers right in front of you.

Silence: This is the second stage. Silence everywhere. You drop a pin you hear the sound. Silence sometimes is the highest form of screaming. No one is saying anything to each other technically but both have each other thoughts running through their hearts. Getting the silent treatment can be annoying even when it’s not from a loved not to talk of it coming from one. So you just want to get it off your chest and move on (smiles). Sometimes all you need do is to embrace the silence because there is no better time to have a clear head to make a decision.  

Acceptance: The main character read from a book saying to be ex free means either heal your wound and move on to get back together or you will heal your wounds and move on to stay apart but either ways you will move on to be ex free. I couldn’t agree less.

In it all to be ex free is a choice. You make the choice to move on, you make the choice to find your own healing, you make the choice to be happy, you make the choice to stay true to yourself,your Heart and to others, you make the choice to not accept less than you deserve, you make the choice to not let anyone make you feel you are not good enough, you make the choice to become a better person, you make the choice to love harder next time and finally you make the choice to give it your best shot again.

I believe we cross path with people for a purpose and when they were asked in the movie to say something their ex did for them, they all had something to say. They either make you see your weaknesses or they make you find your strength. So it was never a waste meeting that person. They are a part of your life and be happy you met them.

Feeling heart broken, just get in touch and lets kidnap your ex together (winks……. Lol).

Agree or disagree comments are welcomed